everyone who knows me knows how much honnesty means to me. The surest and easiest way to hurt me is to lie to me. You can call me a bitch to my face and I would be hurt, but I'd get over it. The times I hold a grudge is when you said "hey, how's it going!" but were thinking....what a bitch.
The thing is, if you lie to me, I will believe you. If you deceive me, I won't catch on. I have a very hard time calling anyone who takes advantage of this trust a friend. Thats not to say I can't forgive. I do. But forgetting is harder.
But what happens if situations are reversed? what if someone really IS better off not knowing? Is there such a thing? I don't know. Maybe so. But that goes against my value number two. You cannot decide whats best for another person. It is not your right. You don't get to withold information on the basis that "they're better off not knowing". You owe them the truth, whatever it may be.
Okay, that was more me figuring something out for myself. You have just witnessed my thought process.
I was going to say something melodramatic like "when did life get so complicated?" but who am I kidding? I've been living in a soap opera since grade 11. sure sometimes it calmed down on commercial breaks but confusion and drama is ALWAYS just around the corner. Sometimes I look back on the more particularly ridiculous dramas that I have both witnessed with my friend and that have happened to me and I just think... did that REALLY happen to us? Did I REALLY do that? Did he really say that? Did they really not realise? Were we REALLY all that stupid?
Okay, so not stupid.
But honnestly, one of us should write a book. Or a stupid teen drama. We could call it 'The AY'. oh look, she made a funny....
But here's my advice to you all. If EVER you find yourself in a particularly confusing emotional period with a person, get it all out at the time. Or at least shortly after. Because trust me, you don't want to have that final revealing moment where "it all comes out" on a drunken night 2 or 3 years freakin' later.
Or do.
It could make for an interesting story.
But what would I know?
Thursday, December 29, 2005
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Honesty means the world to me as well, and I particularly despise when someone does:
""hey, how's it going!" but were thinking....what a bitch."
The reason why I probably hate it so much is because I know SO many people who do that. When I dislike someone I'm not nice to them, but I don't start anything with them either, I just try to avoid talking to them altogether, and if I must I'm civil. Yet because I'm only civil some take it as not being civil because I'm not being nice. Ugh.
Sorry, I went on my own tangent there. Heh. And I also agree with you on all your other opinions. That angsty teen drama should be written!
Hah, I guess because I posted that comment just before going to bed you kept popping up in my dreams. At one point you approached me with this pamphlet for Heritage you had received in the mail and it was "The Best of Heritage - By the Student Assoc." You had come in first for like the most sociable or something, and there was an article all about you written by Rhonda, hahaha. My dreams are weird.
Crazy. That night I was dreaming about Emily having sex with me. Coincidence? I think not!
-Rhonda
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okay, you guys are hilarious.
I honnestly laughed like mad when I read Rhonda's comment.
I miss my VA girls
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